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5 reasons to get excited about winter

No need for the winter blues, there are plenty of reasons to be excited about the cooler months ahead.

Earlier this week the SMH reported that the first significant snowfall of the season had dusted the NSW Snowy Mountains. The same weather system also brought snow to Tasminia’s Central Highlands and strong winds to Adeliade.

This news, can only mean one thing – winter is coming! But there is no need to feel blue, there are plenty of reasons to get excited.

Comfort food

No one wants to slave over a hot oven during the warmer months, but in winter, cooking roasts and hot pots is a wonderful treat. And that’s just the cooking.

Winter is the perfect time to enjoy good old fashioned comfort food. Like slow cooked casseroles, soups served with big wedges of crusty bread and traditional Sunday roads.

Hot drinks

And of course, as the temperature plummets you can also enjoy the warming qualities of hot chocolate, mulled wine and spicy chai lattes.

Winter Fashion

Although you may be sad to say goodbye to your best strappy sun dress, you have to admit that winter fashion is something to feel good about.

Boots. Knits. Jeans. Scarfs. They are all fabulous and coming to a wardrobe near you.

How cosy your bed is

It can be really hard to get out of bed when your bed is warm and toasty. But although this might be something to feel glum about on work days it is something to celebrate come the weekend.

Even if you can’t sleep in, winter is the perfect time to crawl into bed with a good book or enjoy an early night.

Not sweating

One of the things we forget during the weary winter months is how miserable the relentless heat of summer can be. Clammy nights spent tossing and turning, Showering three times a day, planning your day around the places with the best air con.

Yes, it’s going to get cold outside, but at least we won’t be sweaty.

Cuddling up

Who doesn’t love a cuddle with their significant other? Winter is a great time to snuggle up to the one you love.

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Ryan Gosling on being a father-of-two: “I live with angels”

The handsome actor opens up about the joys of fatherhood after welcoming his second daughter, Amada.
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Ryan Gosling just simply cannot stop gushing about his new little one!

Speaking to ABC’s Good Morning America, the Notebook actor confirmed that he and partner Eva Mendes had indeed welcomed a second daughter into the world, just weeks after rumours of a second pregnancy surfaced.

When asked by the host what his new life was like now that the girl-to-boy ratio in their had been upped three-to-one, the blonde beau replied, “it’s like walking through a field of flowers.”

“It’s heaven… I live with angels,” he quipped before steering the interview back to the film he was there to promote – The Nice Guys starring our very own Russell Crowe.

“[Having a new baby is]a ray of sunshine in a dark time, because with Russell, really, it’s sad. It’s sad that we’ve turned out this way,” he teased.

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The 35-year-old also appeared on Ellen in the same week, once again confirming to the world that he had welcomed a baby sister for their first 20-month-old daughter, Esmeralda.

“Is this true, you’re a daddy for the second time?” Ellen DeGeneres asks in a promo for an upcoming episode of The Ellen Show.

“I am,” Ryan responds before teasing that he had brought a picture along of his two-week-old daughter. He hadn’t, instead it was a photoshopped snap of a baby with Ellen’s head.

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The doting dad thinks fatherhood is a breeze! “Being a dad isn’t rocket science – I can handle it.”

According to reports by US gossip site, TMZ, Amada Lee Gosling was born on April 29th in Santa Monica, California.

She was named after Eva’s grandmother who shared the same name which translates to ‘beloved’ in Spanish.

The couple, who are notorious in Hollywood for managing to keep their private life private, have been together since 2011 after meeting on the set of The Place Beyond The Pines.

The couple’s onscreen sparks became real after starring in The Place Beyond the Pines.

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How to succeed in small business

Six of Australia’s most brilliant business minds share their top tips for succeeding in small business.

Half of all small businesses don’t survive – so how can you make sure you’re one of the success stories?

Six of Australia’s most brilliant business minds shared their advice at The Australian Women’s Weekly/CPA Australia Women in Business Awards in Sydney’s Ivy Penthouse this morning.

Alex Malley – Chief Executive of CPA Australia

You have to find time for yourself – time to pause, stand back and have a look at the business from a different perspective. In small business, you are so passionate and involved in the day to day that it can hard to see the business as a whole. You need time to work out your strategy and stay relevant.

Heather Ridout – Chair of AustralianSuper and a member of the Reserve Bank Board

Don’t ignore your superannuation. You never know what’s going to happen and you need to prepare for having to look after yourself – I never thought I’d be in that position but I’m going to be. You need to take $25,000 a year, no matter what. Super is a fantastic long term savings option that too many women just don’t think about until it’s too late.

Sacha Drake – fashion designer and owner of her eponymous label

Spreadsheets are the key to success as a small business owner. Get everything in a spreadsheet. That’s what everyone in business understands. It’s about money, it’s about numbers. That’s all the counts in business. You can either pay your loan back or you can’t and you need to be able to document that.

Siobhan McKenna non-executive director of Ten Network Holdings

Don’t shy away from growing your business. Many women don’t realise that it takes the same amount of energy and effort to run a big business as it takes to run a small business. Women worry that doubling the size of their business will double their workload whereas in reality, it might be more like one per cent more work because as your business grows, you can afford to hire better people to support you. This also has the added benefit of allowing you to focus on the aspects of your role that interest you and that you’re good at, which is good for your business and great for you.

Sarah Wilson founder of I Quit Sugar

Don’t force yourself to do everything yourself. I have always been terrified by anything to do with money. I have no idea how much money I have. When I decided to grow my business from a hobby to something more, I brought on my best friend, who is very good with money. I gave her a share of the company so she had a vested interest and it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. She worries about the money and I am free to be creative and do what I do best and the company has gone from strength to strength because of it. Get people on board you have absolute trust in so you can get on with what you’re good at.

Ainslie Van Onselen – Director of Women’s Markets, Inclusion and Diversity at Westpac

The key to getting finance for your business is confidence and being prepared. Know your objectives, have a business plan and do your research. You have to be financially literate. You need to know, almost in real time, your cash flow and where you’re going. And don’t be afraid to negotiate with your bank. If you get a no, push back. If you aren’t able to have a good clear discussion with your banker, get a new banker. You also need to continue developing your business case. It doesn’t stop once you’re up and running. To work fast and keep growing, you need to know exactly where you are going at all times.

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Is your teen suicidal?

More Australian teens take their own lives than die in car accidents. Professor Kerryn Phelps explains what you can do to help combat this troubling epidemic.

A school community near to us was recently shattered by the suicide of a girl in Year 8. Fellow students, teachers and parents were shocked, and left to ask, “How this could have happened? How could a young person with so much potential deliberately end their own life?”

The unspoken question in the air was, “Could this happen to other young people?”

It is impossible to imagine anything more devastating for a family than the suicide of their teenage son or daughter. Yet the tragedy of suicide is the leading cause of premature and preventable death in young Australians. More young Australians die by suicide than in car accidents.

Suicide is rare in childhood, but starts to become much more common at adolescence, with the risk rising rapidly between the ages of 15 and 19.

These figures do not include suicide attempts, estimated to be up to 20 times more frequent than completed suicide.

WHAT YOU CAN DO

At home and at school, you need to look at the factors that contribute to stress, anxiety and depression, and do what you can to reduce the sources of distress for young people and improve their resilience.

It is important that young people understand that life pressures ebb and flow, and that all stressors cannot be eliminated. However, they can develop coping skills to manage through difficult periods.

Be alert to warning signs. It can be difficult to broach the subject of mental health, but it is a conversation that needs to be started if you suspect a teen is depressed or anxious. It is important to show them that you notice they are in difficulty and that there is support for them.

Be careful not to pass off talk of hopelessness, self-harm or death as a passing phase or teenage angst. Make it clear that you are taking their concerns seriously and that you are there to listen and help.

If you suspect they are at risk, you need to arrange for urgent professional intervention and support. Your GP is a place to start and we are able to do a mental health assessment and then refer to a psychologist, psychiatrist or appropriate counselling service.

Recognise when your teen is overwhelmed by school work or other commitments and help them manage their time. Their school should be able to plan study schedules and to provide extra educational support if they are struggling.

At home, you can encourage your teen to spend time with friends and family, rather than spend a lot of time alone.

I also advise parents to closely monitor their child’s use of the internet and social media. All devices should be excluded from the bedroom at night to avoid exposure to potential cyber-bullying.

Physical activity, either as organised sport or shared activities such as walking, bike riding, swimming and time spent in natural environments are important for mental wellness.

If you keep alcohol or medication in your home, make sure it is stored securely and monitored regularly. Make sure any firearms in or around your home are in safe storage.

WHAT ABOUT ANTIDEPRESSANT MEDICINES?

Some studies have shown a possible link between starting treatment with an antidepressant and an increased risk of suicide.

Manufacturers of all antidepressants are required to include a warning stating that antidepressants might increase the risk of suicide in children, adolescents and young adults.

It is very unusual for a teenager to be prescribed antidepressants. However, in some cases of severe depression, medical advice might be to use antidepressant medication under careful supervision and any young person starting one of these medicines should be watched closely for signs

of increased suicidal thinking.

RISK FACTORS AND WARNING SIGNS

It is not always possible to predict if a young person is likely to attempt suicide. In some cases, there is a sudden overwhelming stress, while in other cases there is a build-up of stress over months or years.

However, there are some warning signs to alert you to the potential risk.

  • Prolonged bouts of sadness

  • Social isolation or difficulty with friendships

  • Being a victim of bullying or abuse

  • Family disruption, loss or adversity

  • Irritability or other personality changes

  • Trouble eating or sleeping

  • Loss of interest in activities

  • Decline in school performance

  • Drug use

  • Alcohol use

  • Self-harm or talk about self-harm

  • Lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender sexual orientation

  • Talk about being “worthless”, “hopeless” or “helpless”

  • Talk about dying, disappearing or suicide

  • Attempted suicide

WHERE TO ASK FOR HELP

Your GP

Headspace: 1800 650 890 or headspace.org.au

Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14

ReachOut: au.reachout.com

Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800

Youth Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 or youthbeyondblue.com

This story originally appeared in the March 2016 issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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What’s so wrong with man boobs?

Kerri Sackville wonders why the media are so obsessed with Bill Shorten's chest.

The other day I needed an accountant. I asked around, and got the name of someone who came highly recommended. But when I met him, I noticed that he was overweight. And so of course I didn’t use him, because I can’t have an accountant who isn’t completely in shape.

Of course, that didn’t actually happen. But if you listen to the Daily Telegraph, it really should.

According to the Tele, Bill Shorten, the Opposition Leader, is not suitable to run the country – not because of his policies, or his ideology, or his past performance, but because of his… wait for it…

Man boobs. Yes, several column inches have been devoted to Bill Shorten’s man boobs. Image consultants have even been brought in to discuss the problem:

“It doesn’t make him more attractive,” says image consultant Imogen Lamport. (Despite his weight loss) he’s still got an Achilles heel – he’s got man boobs.”

Mark Latham went even further:

“Now, in this more enlightened era, Shorten has a chance to win some key marginal seats with a man boobs-led recovery.

“He needs to start appearing on the campaign trail as a woman, pushing up his boobies in a lovely, low-cut designer dress.”

Now don’t get me wrong: I am no fan of Bill Shorten. Quite frankly, I’m no great fan of any of our current crop of politicians.

But this isn’t about politics, and it isn’t about Bill Shorten. It’s about focusing on appearance when appearance is completely and utterly irrelevant.

And it’s about insulting us, the readers, by implying that we care about the chest region of the person potentially running our country.

Attacking a high profile man for his appearance is very unusual in our society. Yes, the media makes fun of bizarre haircuts (think of Donald Trump) and strange clothing (hello, Geoffrey Edelsten).

But over the years we have had overweight male politicians, unattractive male politicians, wrinkled male politicians, balding male politicians… none of them have received the kind of attacks on their appearance that female politicians put up with.

Latham knows this. He is aware that making fun of Bill Shorten for being unfit, or having poor muscle tone, isn’t going to cut it. No-one will care. So he has honed in on Shorten’s man boobs. That’s because, as Latham knows, the one way to insult a man’s appearance, the one way to humiliate him, is to make him seem womanly.

But really, man boobs are just a distribution of fat in the chest area. They don’t indicate anything more significant than that. And they absolutely don’t hint at what kind of a leader Bill Shorten will be.

My obstetrician may have had man boobs. I didn’t ask to see them when I was booking into hospital, but it is possible. It certainly didn’t impact upon the safe delivery of my baby. The man who installed my computer might have man boobs, too. The principal of my son’s school might have them. The butcher who sells me that lovely brisket. The leasing agent for my apartment! My lawyer! Every single one of them could have man boobs under their shirts.

And so what? It isn’t the slightest bit relevant. It doesn’t make them less capable, or competent, or even masculine, any more than my cellulite or pot belly or soon-to-be-tuckshop-lady arms makes me less of a writer. They are just body parts.

As I said, I’m no fan of Shorten. But we just diminish ourselves when we try to diminish others this way. And we should judge our politicians on their policies, and not the bumps that appear under their shirts.

Kerri Sackville is an Australian columnist, social commentator and mother of three. She writes regularly for online and print media, is the author of The Little Book of Anxiety, and appears regularly on Channel 7’s The Morning Show.

Follow Kerri on Twitter at @kerrisackville, and Facebook.

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Meet our Women in Business Awards winners!

We are proud to announce the winners of The Australian Women’s Weekly/CPA Australia 2016 Women in Business Awards.

Now in its second year, The Australian Women’s Weekly/CPA Australia Women In Business Awards seeks to uncover the entrepreneurs of tomorrow.

Our panel of judges, each a recognised leader in their field and including former CEO of the Australian Industry Group and Reserve Bank Board member Heather Ridout, as well as the Federal Minister for Small Business and Assistant Treasurer Kelly O’Dwyer, has spoken – here are the winners!

MAJOR PRIZE WINNER

Ziah Lane, No Issues Tissues

100% tree-free tissues, toilet paper and paper towels made from renewable and sustainable bamboo.

“Brand awareness is the main challenge, getting people to know about the product. No trees are used in the production of these products. Bamboo is the future of the paper industry. I am an advocate and I want everyone to know that.”

HIGHLY COMMENDED WINNER

Julie Adams/Lorna Cook, chemo@home

Administers chemotherapy and other infusions to patients in their own homes

“We are trying to change the face of cancer care, having national coverage would help change the whole paradigm of cancer care across Australia and maybe the world. We don’t have a big marketing budget, so we need exposure so people know this service is here when they need it.”

HIGHLY COMMENDED WINNER

Kristy Chong, ModiBodi

Stylish and comfortable underwear that is period, leak and sweat-proof

“I started the brand to provide a comfortable, convenient and attractive product for women that didn’t exist in the market. Some issues are still taboo, we want to break them down. Being recognised as a leading woman in business will go a long way to helping do that.”

RUNNER UP

Carmen O’Keefe, RIGA Precast Pty Ltd

Canberra’s preeminent precast panel supplier

“Every night I sit at my computer and think, ‘What can I do to make this better? A new trainee? Year 10 school group visits?’ I am inspired to do well, with Riga making a difference. We are changing perceptions within the precast industry.”

RUNNER UP

Caroline Monet, Caroline’s Cream

Therapeutic skincare for the relief of a range of skin conditions

“There are so many people who are going to benefit from this. My product changes people’s lives, it’s not a luxury. It’s the difference of being able to go to work, to sleep at night. This is what drives me.”

RUNNER UP

Rachel Perkins, JustMums Recruitment

Connecting working mums and mums returning to work with family-friendly employment

“The brand development and the advertising that comes with these awards will help grow the business on a national level. It would be amazing to have a presence in every part of the country, and be able to connect working mothers with flexible employers.”

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Sexist sex tips from the 1940s

The ideal woman always pretends she's a virgin, and doesn't even think about speaking to her man for at least 30 minutes after the act.
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Ever wondered what men really want in the bedroom? According to a popular 1940s sex manual, the ideal woman always pretends she’s a virgin, is never dominant between the sheets and doesn’t even think about speaking to her man for at least 15 minutes after the act – preferably half an hour.

What Men Don’t Like About Women by Thomas D Horton was penned in 1945 as a practical handbook for women wanting to make themselves more attractive to men.

Its most-read chapter is entitled “Women in bed – and the morning after”, which details all the “repulsive” things ladies do before, during and after sex.

Here are Horton’s top six complaints about the fairer sex’s conduct between the sheets:

1. Your vulgar talk: Apart from using “disgusting” words “seldom used, even in saloons”, women frequently horrify men by refusing to pretend they are virgins. “They say such things as the following: ‘Oh darling, I’ve been with many men, so I know, and I want to tell you that you are the best … It’s funny for you to be a Russian. Two weeks ago I was with an Armenian. It is truly astounding how many relatively decent women lose all control of their mouths when they jump into bed beside a man.”

2. Being too bossy in bed: “There are few things in this world that offend a man more than to be directed in the sex act by his woman,” Horton writes. “It is pretty near the ultimate humiliation. Nature demands that the male be dominant in bed. Some women think it is healthy to tell their men what to do and how to do it. The Truth is that it is degrading and the upshot is marital misery – or divorce.”

3. Asking for a new fur coat after coitus: “Many women look upon the act of intercourse as a sort of long-term IOU, payable when they feel like it,” Horton says. “Shortly after the act, the dear thing will say, ‘So, will you get me that winter coat I pointed out to you?’ If a woman doesn’t ask for something while in bed with her man, she is, very likely, not sure what she wants and will ask him the next morning.”

4. Not being clean enough “down there” and insisting on talking after sex: “Longer and more frequent washing would please more men they imagine,” Horton espouses. “Immediately afterwards, what a man wants most is not to see or hear his beloved for at least 15 minutes – preferably for half an hour. If more women knew this simple fact, their love life would be happier.”

5. Pretending you are his intellectual equal: “Women seem to assume that they are man’s intellectual equal so they blab and blab, taxing the man’s patience to no end. What he really wants are quiet rest and sleep,” Horton complains.

6. Your terrible morning breath: “Some women can’t understand why men refuse to kiss them immediately upon awaking. The reason is very simple: the morning mouth that has not been rinsed or cleaned is not a pleasant mouth to kiss.”

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EXCLUSIVE! Dami Im speaks out following Eurovision success

Fresh from sailing through to the Eurovision grand finals, Woman’s Day caught up with the star backstage.
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Australia's very own Dami Im has fast become a crowd favourite!

As Dami Im heads into the Eurovision grand finale, the Australian star has something she wants to get off her chest.

Speaking to Woman’s Day‘s Executive Editor Claire Isaac, who is currently in Stockholm for the global competition, the Aussie admitted she is completely overwhelmed by all the support she has received.

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“Hey Australia! Thank you so much for watching me, getting up early and just supporting me. I can feel it from here,” the talented star said while gesturing to her heart.

“I am just so grateful and I hope that I make you even more proud in the grand final!”

Dami is Australia’s second ever contestant to enter Eurovision.

In 2014, Jessica Mauboy was a guest performer during the competition but not an actual contestant.

Last year Guy Sebastian, who finished in 5th place his tune Tonight Again, was guaranteed a spot in the grand final as a courtesy for Australia’s first year competing, but Dami won her spot in the final round after her show-stopping performance on Sunday.

In fact, her performance was so powerful that gambling site Sportsbet slashed her odds of winning the competition from $19.00 to $5.00, making her second-favourite to take out first place, with only Russia ahead on $1.75.

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The Queenslander’s performance was met with a deafening chorus of cheers.

Fans inside the Ericsson Global stadium reported that the former X-Factor star’s rendition of Sound of Silence brought in perhaps the biggest applause of the competition thus far.

“Australia is definitely the favorite in Semi final 2, just listen to the cheers,” one fan shared on Twitter along with a clip of the performers last note, which had onlookers erupting in cheers.

Dami deemed the performance so emotionally uplifting, that the sheer support she received onstage caused her to burst into tears immediately after.

Woman’s Day‘s Claire Isaac caught up with the woman of the moment.

“I could picture all my family watching, all getting up at 5am to see me and that made me a bit nervous,” the 27-year-old said to SMH.

“When I saw all the fans singing along and waving, and everyone cheering to me, I don’t cry all that often, but I burst into tears. I was so touched how everyone was so supportive of me.”

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This heart wrenching ad has a wonderful twist

Warning: You might need some tissues handy

A new ad from Nestlé has been going viral and it’s a bit of a tear-jerker.

The ad follows a couple as they prepare to welcome a baby.

They visit the doctor, sift through paperwork and arrange a room perfect for their new addition.

It isn’t until the end of the ad that we see their parenting journey has led them to adoption.

The moment the new mum and dad meet their new sun is absolutely beautiful.

As the video closes, the sentence “Ser mamá es algo que crece en el corazón” appears, which translates to “Being a mum is something that grows in the heart.”

Pass us the tissues.

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Pregnant mum shares powerful infertility message

“I’m so in love I can hardly stand it.”

An expectant mum has shared a powerful pregnancy announcement that captures the fertility struggle she went through on the road to conceiving her first child.

Mum-to-be Macy, photographed a pile of syringes and alongside a tiny onesie.

Writing on her blog, Macy said that had taken took four years, three miscarriages, depression, 107 hormone injections, one surgery, two procedures, over 100 suppositories, and several thousand dollars to get her baby.

Macy also wrote about the pain and tears she experienced over four years of trying to conceive.

“What our baby does do is fill us with a love and joy and gratefulness that I never knew possible,” she wrote.

Image via www.instagram.com/martinisandmedicine

Image via www.instagram.com/martinisandmedicine

“When I look at that ultrasound my heart actually skips. For years I lived never knowing if I would ever have an ultrasound photo hanging on my fridge.

“I’m so in love I can hardly stand it.”

She hopes that her experience will inspire other women who are struggling with infertility to keep trying.

Although clearly overjoyed, Macy noted that the news was “bittersweet”. Reflecting on the babies she has lost, she said: “To every single one of my babies, you were worth it.”

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