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Love after marriage has ended

When a marriage ends your concept of love can change as Danielle Colley discovered.
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My neighbour behind me is about a million years old.

She’s a tiny little Macedonian lady with a bristly, grey, stubble on her chin and white hair. She wears black jumpers even on 35 degree days because she’s in mourning. She has been mourning for as long as I’ve known her and I’d hazard a guess it was a long while before that.

She’s lived in her big house on her own for however many years since her husband died and she can no longer go up the stairs because she has bad knees.

I’ve spoken with her a good handful of times over the three years I’ve lived here but never really talked about marriage, I don’t recall, but I guess maybe she’s clueier than I thought because when I bumped into her recently on her late afternoon hobble the first thing out of her mouth was –

“Is your husband coming home?”

“What?” I replied, with the look on my face that you imagine I would have.

“Your husband? He come home?”

“Ummm, nope.”

“You here alone?”

“I’m here with my kids,” I said. “That’s definitely not alone.”

“It’s no good,” she said sadly. “You need a husband.

And off she went, feeling very sorry for my state of affairs. Bless. If only she knew what goes on in my head. The truth is, I’m really grappling with this love business, or more specifically love after marriage.

Surely, someone somewhere wrote a guidebook about dealing with all of the mixed up shit that goes down when you end a marriage with children and you begin again?

The more I try to work it out with my head, the further away answers slip from my fingers. I know love questions are really answered with the heart, but my head has a rather convincing time of overriding the meeting room. It’s like my head sits at the head of the table (naturally) being all boss-like and shit while my heart sits quietly somewhere around the middle of the table, probably eyeing off the danishes and zoning out.

All through my dating years, I had a fairly easy gauge on relationships. It came down to one question – Are you a possible lifetime mate with whom to get married and procreate, or just a fun-time roll around?

If the answer was the latter, the not-so-lucky guy practically had a use-by date stamped on his forehead and we had some fun for a bit and then it all ended in buckets of tears and I vowed never to do it again… until the next time I felt that familiar butterfly stretching its wings in my belly when someone looks at you and you get ZING.

If the answer was maybe, then we played it out until either a) I realised I was wrong, or b) they unceremoniously dumped me at Christmas which happened a few years in a row. Not this Christmas though. This Christmas I broke a heart. A special one that helped heal mine when I was all broken into pieces.

Breaking up is really shit. The fact is, no matter which side of the breakup you’re on it’s stinky. Hearts are such tender organs and squeezing the life out them with words that penetrate the chest cavity makes for a pretty crappy few weeks/months.

My problem is that there was that one time where I thought yes, I found my forever mate, and he agreed with me so we did that crazy thing where you have a kid, then whack on a frock made out of vintage lace, and you say “I do forever” in front of all of your friends. Except it wasn’t forever. Not even close. So now I don’t know what the next relationship looks like. It ain’t simple maths any more.

Everything I thought I knew about traditional relationship trajectories is now skewed. I already got married and had kids… Now I don’t know what’s supposed to happen now because Disney has not been as progressive as to make a’ happily ever after ‘after the first ‘happily ever after’ didn’t pan out.

I love love, and I don’t love being on my own but I’m all in a flux so I’m taking some time to work it out. I’m benching myself for a bit… So I can try to figure out what those HAPPILIES look like.

Danielle Colley

*Danielle Colley is a writer, blogger and mum. She is a regular contributor to The Weekly and other online and print publications.

You can see more of Danielle on her blog, Keeping Up With The Holsbys*

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Celine Dion is surprised by her son at the Billboard Music Awards

Following a heartbreaking few months, Celine Dion emerges back into the public sphere as the recipient of the Icon Award at the 2016 Billboard Awards.
Celine Dion

Celine Dion gave a powerful performance of The Show Must Go On at the 2016 Billboard Music Awards on Sunday.

The songstress was no doubt paying tribute to her late husband, Rene Angelil, through the 1990 Queen ballad.

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This marks Celine’s first time performing on TV since her beloved’s passing.

The mum-of-three was also honored with the prestigious Billboard Icon Award. Previous recipients include Jennifer Lopez (2014) and the late Prince (2013).

In a beautiful touch Seal introduced the surprise presenter, the 48-year-old’s eldest, Rene Charles.

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“I’m so sorry. I want to be so strong for my family and my kids. I didn’t expect that,” the singer admitted.

Wiping away tears, she asked her son, “Do you mind standing next to me?”

Holding her hand he proudly beamed, “Sure, yeah!”

“This is such a tremendous honour,” she began.

What a powerful woman! Celine accepted her award with her son right by her side.

“Music has been my passion since the beginning. I want to thank the fans for always being there – in the bad and good times.”

Adding, “Most importantly, my beloved husband, who I know will continue to watch over me from up and above.”

“The show must go on,” the brave star poignantly concluded.

Relive all the moments from the Billboard Awards here

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Does Married At First Sight star Xavier have a new girlfriend?

Weeks after he was unceremoniously dumped by Simone Brennan in front of the nation, Married At First Sight star Xavier Forsberg may have already moved on.
Xavier Forsberg

Over the weekend the Sydney local uploaded a very telling photo to Instagram, which sent the romance rumours into overdrive.

In the shot, the reality star cuts a dapper figure in a white shirt and black trousers as he gazes affectionately into the eyes of a very pretty female companion.

He simply captioned it “power” alongside the prayer hand emoji.

His wedding date also shared a similar shot on her Instagram page and remarked: “Wedding fun with my partner in crime.”

Looking cosy! On Sunday Xavier sent the romance rumours into overdrive with this sweet pic.

It didn’t take long for fans to speculate the photo could be of Xavier’s new love interest.

“If she is your girlfriend she is a lucky women,” one fan mused.

“Hope it works out for you both,” another added.

However not everyone was quick to jump to conclusions.

There’s no denying the duo make a glamorous pairing!

“Could be his sister,” another used pointed out.

Xavier is yet to comment on the new romance claims.

Last month, fans were left shocked when Simone broke it off with the self-confessed footy head. Throughout their pseudo marriage the pair’s chemistry was palpable but ultimately Simone pulled the plug, citing the fact he wasn’t romantic enough.

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“I want somebody who is excited when I walk in that door. And I want somebody who genuinely wants to hold me so today I’m so clear in my decision!”

“I’m going to walk away from this relationship because I feel you cannot give me any of those things so thank you for the last month and that’s it,” she explained to her pseudo husband of one month.

Before their break-up, Simone was left less than impressed after Xavier took her to a Western Sydney Wanderers soccer match as a date.

The 26-year-old was dumped by Simone in the last episode of the reality show.

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Why you should never fake an orgasm

Don’t fake it til you make it, because you won’t make it writes sex therapist and educator Jacqueline Hellyer.
Why you should never fake an orgasm

If you want to spice up your sex life, it’s got to be real.

There’s no point faking it.

That would be like putting fake spices into a curry – it might look good, but if it tastes terrible there’s no point.

If you fake sexual pleasure you’re deceiving your partner and you’ll end up frustrated and resentful.

“Fake it till you make it” might work in some parts of life, but not with sex.

I had a client once who came to me after faking orgasm with her husband for seven years. She wanted me to help her become orgasmic with him without actually telling him she’d ever faked it.

What a dilemma!

She had two choices:

1) confess that she’d been faking it and work with him to become orgasmic again: or

2) not tell him anything and replace the fake orgasms with real orgasms.

I would have preferred if she’d gone with option #1 as it’s so much easier to make changes to a couple’s love life if they are both involved.

But she felt he’d be devastated if she admitted she’d been faking it for so long (probably with good reason), so went for option #2.

It was the trickier option, but it did actually work (whew!).

To do so, she needed to take more control of their love-making, expand their sexual repertoire, improve the lead-up to sex and learn a lot more about her own body and sex in general.

Fortunately that time the transition from being fake to being real succeeded.

But, you know, wouldn’t it have been a lot easier if she’d never started faking it in the first place!

Ladies, please, I ask you to put one hand over your heart and raise the other and say out loud: “I will not fake orgasm.”

Now say it again, more firmly and with conviction: “I WILL NOT FAKE ORGASM!”

Excellent. Now stick to that resolve.

You could possibly be excused if you were with someone for the first time and were absolutely sure you’d never see him again – but why let him think he’s done something he hasn’t?

It’s just setting the next woman up for failure.

Or maybe if you’re in a long-term relationship and usually orgasm but for some reason you’re too tired or something and aren’t going to make it.

But in that case why not tell him you’re not going to make it and just enjoy the closeness?

Sex is not just about orgasm. It’s the journey not the destination.

People are so obsessed with the Big ‘O’ these days, that men feel inadequate if they don’t give their partner an orgasm (or several) and women feel inadequate if they don’t have an orgasm.

This all adds to performance anxiety, which actually makes the likelihood of causing/having an orgasm even less.

Chill out! You don’t have to have/cause an orgasm! Of course it’s a wonderful part of sex, but it’s not obligatory.

If you’re having on-going problems with orgasm then it’s worth the both of you focusing on ways to enable orgasm – note that I say both of you – and to do so in an inspired, playful way, rather than a got-to-have-an-orgasm-at-all-costs kind of way.

That all or nothing thinking leads to faking it and faking leads to on-going problems.

So ladies, never fake it. And guys, don’t take it as a personal affront if she doesn’t make it. Get playful, get creative, and you’ll have so much fun there won’t be a need for any faking.

Note: And if you’re a man who fakes it, and there are plenty who do. The same applies to you.

This story originally appeared on Love Life.

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Mums from viral baby bump photo reunite after giving birth

Fitness model Chontel Duncan and friend Natalie Smith recreated their sweet viral baby bump photo, this time with their newborn bubs in tow.
Chontel Duncan and Natalie Smith

Too cute!

A sweet snap of fitness guru Chontel Duncan and her friend Natalie Smith swept the internet in November of last year after they posed bump-to-bump, showing the vast difference in the size of their burgeoning bellies despite being only four weeks apart.

And now, the pair have reunited to recreate the sweet photo, but this time, they brought along their little baby boys.

“Had a lovely surprise visit from Nat & baby Charlie. Omg his baby blue eyes are so beautiful. Wish I could have cuddled & kissed him but I’m not 100% well yet (hence my rank face).”

“Two healthy incredible pregnancies & now two healthy baby boys,” the new mum said to her 555,000 followers.

Now and then: The new-mum’s both welcomed their sweet baby boys in March.

The original photo became a viral sensation after it was picked up by media outlets all over the world for its sentiment of body positivity.

For the most part, commenters praised the former Miss Universe finalist and her gal pal for spreading the message that each and every woman experiences pregnancy differently, but some went as far to criticise Chontel for having such a taught physique 21 weeks into her pregnancy.

The fitness model sprung right back after giving birth to her first son.

“Each woman carries different and this most certainly doesn’t mean one is doing something wrong or not healthy,” the Queensland-based beauty captioned the photo which was posted 6 months ago.

“We both have healthy growing babies.”

Defending herself against the online backlash, Chontel told Us Weekly, “I’m extremely tall, I’m 6-foot-1. My torso is very long and my core strength is very strong.”

“People think I’m harming my baby and that I’m all about staying skinny and not nourishing my little D. I know it’s hard to believe that someone can carry a child the way I am, but in reality, a lot of women carry like me.”

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The proud mum, who saw her six-pack return just weeks after welcoming her son Jeremiah, is happy to be back in the gym working on her fitness.

Since her joyous arrival, the pretty brunette has enjoyed sharing her learning experiences as a new mummy with her vast social media following, and if all goes to plan, Chontel plans on giving little Miah a brother or sister in the near furture.

“If all goes well, I plan to fall pregnant again this year,” she said to People.

The ultimate way to multitask!

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Seven Year Switch stars confirm pregnancy

Congratulations to the happy couple!
Seven Year Switch star confirms pregnancy

Seven Year Switch stars Tim and Jackie have revealed they’re expecting their first child following weeks of speculation.

“We’re having what we’re calling our ‘Seven Year Switch baby!’” Jackie told New Idea.

She went on to say that the show’s “switch therapy” has brought them closer than ever before.

“It’s because of the show we sorted things out and are now having a baby,” she said.

“We got pregnant within a week of finishing the show so that was a shock.”

Watch: Jackie reveals she’s trying for a baby with Tim. Post continues after video…

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And if that news wasn’t big enough, it appears Tim has finally proposed!

A “sneak preview” video was shared online ahead of Monday’s reunion episode, showing Tim getting down on one knee and opening a ring box.

However, the clip was swiftly deleted so we’ll have to wait and see!

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My night in a brothel

Danielle Colley spent eight hours in her local brothel to find out when goes on behind the red light.
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Often prostitutes, or working girls, are portrayed as either drug addicted run-aways or glamorous high-class call girls.

The gritty truth of the sex industry is generally somewhere in between.

When I approached my friendly neighbourhood brothel, I was fairly sure that I would never set foot in the place. Instead, when I made clear my motives, they welcomed me.

Danika* says she has aged ten years in the last five years, and looking at her now, I see a woman who looks exhausted. Her skin is sallow with bags under her eyes and her hair needs a wash.

She’s just had a 9-hour shift and been with the same young guy for much of that time.

“It’s nice when it’s a long call, because much of the time is spent hanging out, chatting and drinking rather than having back to back sex with clients trying to get bang for their buck,” she says.

A 12-hour shift with a lot of clients can take its toll.

For working girls, sore bits are just an occupational hazard, amongst many other health risks. Guys will try to get the girls to do natural – no condom – French (oral) or sex.

Obviously, the girls’ sexual health is their biggest concern; their kit is their moneymaker.

Danika has a few regulars, one of whom she’s been seeing every couple of weeks for three years.

Do you ever get attached?

“Yeah, I do, you can’t help it. Sex is an intimate thing. Some of the guys get crazy about you but it would never go anywhere. It can’t.”

I guess the Pretty Woman idyll does not live here.

Danika is a 39-year-old, single mum of three who lives with her parents and her elderly grandmother. After a string of bad relationships, when she found herself in a dire financial struggle, she decided she would try prostitution.

Does it ever get to you?

“Mentally, I’m pretty tough. Things just roll off my back. I’ve seen wackos, but they don’t bother me. I don’t like the paedophile guys. Guys come in and want you to act like you’re 12 or 13. I won’t do that. I won’t play under 16. I don’t do lesbian either.”

The girls are never required to do anything they don’t want to. If someone requests something out of the ordinary, like anal or BDSM, they just opt out if they’re not into it. For the most part, it’s all fairly meat and potatoes.

Danika’s mother found her out when an embittered ex-boyfriend called and left a message on her machine. Danika couldn’t lie to her mother, so the cat-house cat was out of the bag. Her mother keeps her secret and is very supportive, looking after her children while she works, sometimes days at a time without returning home.

“The rest of my family think I’m a receptionist in a hotel.”

Danika and I are lying on a bed, shooting the breeze like two teenagers on a sleepover, except there is a spa bath in the corner of the room and a TV playing porn above our heads. I try not to look at the TV but my eyes kept drawing towards it. It’s surreal trying to conduct an interview with bouncing arses and boobs in your peripheral vision.

Holly* is a tiny little slip of a woman. Glittery eye shadow and red lips adorn her face, and she’s wearing a little black dress. She won’t divulge how old she is but I’d guess late forties or maybe her life has just been tough.

Holly lives at the brothel and she warmly invites me into her room that fits barely more than a double bed and a dressing table (and her new up-cycled shoe rack, of which she’s extremely proud).

All the rooms have large mirrors adorning one wall and on Holly’s there are song lyrics emblazoned.

Sunshine. Good times. Moonlight. Boogie.

Shine bright like a diamond.

It seems fairly common to come and go from the industry, but lure seems to bring the ladies back time and time. The girls kept saying the job was addictive.

I would have guessed they meant the money, but on closer consideration, the job creates a sense of loneliness and segregation from the real world. Conversely, the job also quenches that feeling because behind those walls there are no secrets.

Everyone knows that they are selling sex and there is no subterfuge.

“I like the industry,” says Holly, “I like the atmosphere. I like the activity. Even on my nights off I like to hear the activity. It makes me feel as though I’m not alone.”

Are you lonely?

“I’m so lonely.”

Usually the girls will stop working when they have a relationship, but Holly is currently madly in love with a man who has no idea what she does for a living.

“We’re talking about our future together so to spare his feelings I need to tell a little white lie. It’s not as if I’m cheating on him, because this is work. I’m only acting. I’m effectively an actress.”

He believes she’s a live-in nanny and they see each other only on the weekends. I think she realises it’s more than a white lie, but the fear of his judgement and retribution seems too great a risk.

This is a very real fear for all of the girls, but Holly has already felt the brunt of this when she lost her entire family, including her three children, after being found out.

She no longer has any contact with her children, but she hopes one day they will find her and look beyond the odium attached to her profession and reach out to her once more.

“You get to know who you can tell and who you can’t. There’s a stigma attached to the industry. On TV you see streetwalkers, drug-addicted streetwalkers. People don’t realise how clean and beautiful the women are in these houses. I’ve worked with nurses and business owners.”

Are you happy?

“I’m content. It’s what it is. The Universe has given me this job for a reason.”

What do you want to be when you grow up?

“Happy.”

Holly tells me that it doesn’t take long to become desensitised and tough. That’s how you get through.

Holly began in the industry after falling into a large hole of debt. Her day job as a bed sales girl wasn’t cutting it.

“It seemed a natural progression,” she laughed, “from selling beds to f__king in them.”

I asked the girls about the money. Obviously amounts vary from girl to girl and brothel to brothel, but an average weekly income after the house takes its split is about $2500.

In theory, they would only need to work a few months at a time and take time off, or save enough to do something big with, but the girls I spoke with all seem to have money issues.

Young Sasha admitted that in the last three months she’s been gambling much of it away. In one sitting she’ll blow her entire night’s wage on a poker machine.

Sasha started working in massage, or Rub and Tug, as it’s known colloquially, when she was only 20. She was on an apprentice wage and wanted extra cash.

She said until she started working in the sex industry she had no confidence with men and hated getting undressed in front of them.

Sasha’s bold and brash sense of humour is worn like a coat of armour. I felt as though she deflected much of her feelings by being coarse or crass, particularly with her clients. In fact, she attributes often getting the client in the first place with her overtly bolshie and sexual approach.

She’s outrageous in her approach. Often in the ‘Intro’ (where the client comes in to view the girls before making his choice), she’ll be a clown, albeit a sexual one.

She’ll parody thrusting and masturbating, take the piss out of them. She initially assumed that guys would go for the prettier or the slimmer girls, but the more often she was chosen, the greater her confidence in her sex appeal grew.

In the precursory sexual health check she will inspect a client for obvious lesions whilst making a man stand on one leg.

“By the time he realiwes I’m taking the piss, the ice is broken and he relaxes. I also hate getting on top. I have no rhythm. None. I’ll tell them I have a knee injury so they have to do the work. I’m the laziest hooker you’ll ever meet,” she laughs.

When she went for an intro during our interview she suggested I come in to the room with her if she was picked.

“I don’t care. I’d do it. I reckon a guy would be up for it. You wanna?”

I admit I considered it briefly, but I had to draw the line on this story somewhere… besides, I wouldn’t know where to look.

Whilst not hard work, like building the Burma railway or breaking rocks with a pick axe, it is still quite physically gruelling in it’s own way. The 12-hour overnight shifts are difficult to stay awake on, and not all clients are created equal.

Some are nice, some are not.

I asked Danika if they were shown respect by their clients, and she replied that 90% were lovely, normal guys. Now and then someone will want to talk rough or dirty to her.

“You’re a slut, they’ll often say… No, I’m not, I’m a whore,” Danika laughs with her gravelly tone. “You’re paying me.”

The consensus between the girls is that married guys are the worst. On a recent outcall, one of the girls walked into the lounge in a family home that was strewn with kids’ toys and the walls were plastered with family photos. His wife and kids were away and he got a hooker to come to the house.

Many guys are shown tenderness, especially the broken-hearted ones, or widows, but married men are judged harshly.

Although house rules stipulate that there is to be no drug use on the premises, there is most certainly a little underground scene, with one of my girls admitting she had actually had ice, or crystal meth, that afternoon.

I figured that the industry and the drug scene were quite tightly enmeshed so when I spoke to management before the interviews I asked them how they handled it if they saw one of their girls going down, either physically or emotionally.

“Oh, we see it. If it seems like they need counselling we help them get it, and if they need to clean up, we help them with that too. We take them to rehab or support them while they get clean. We’re a family and we need to look after our own.”

I only met three working girls out of thousands across the world. I imagine that motives vary but the main reason is it seems like easy money.

Although the stories of how my girls came to the industry are vastly different, I feel that the industry has shaped them all similarly. Cynicism and mistrust are rife.

They all admit that they have not been treated well by guys in the past, and this profession does not leave them with a trust for the hairier sex.

I got in my car to go home, and I was thankful to be heading to my bed and not staying for an all-nighter with the girls. I’m grateful to them for letting me in, just a little bit, to their lives, and I know that each woman I spoke with is just a woman doing her best to get by, regardless of how society may view her.

Danielle Colley

*Danielle Colley is a writer, blogger and mum. She is a regular contributor to The Weekly and other online and print publications.

You can see more of Danielle on her blog, Keeping Up With The Holsbys, or her Facebook page facebook.com/keepingupwiththeholsbys.*

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The supermarket kiss that cost police $110k

A casual holiday kiss while shopping from groceries in Hawaii has sparked an international scandal.

A couple who were arrested for kissing and holding hands in a Hawaii supermarket have been awarded an $110,000 settlement after they sued for discrimination and harassment.

Courtney Wilson and Taylor Guerrero, a long-term lesbian couple from Los Angeles, were on holiday in Honolulu, Hawaii, last October when they stopped at a Foodland supermarket to buy some groceries.

The couple strolled the aisles hand-in-hand, like any other couple enjoying a romantic getaway, and exchanged a few brief kisses, attracting the attention of police officer Bobby Harrison, who was also shopping.

He was offended by their public display of affection and told the couple to “take it somewhere else” but when he spotted them holding hands again a short time later, he found the store manager and asked for them to be thrown out of the store.

Harrison then approached the couple as they queued up to pay for their groceries and asked them to leave and when Wilson got out her phone to call 911 to report unlawful harassment, he grabbed her and prevented her from making the call.

When Guerrero stepped in to intervene, Harrison threw her to the ground, struck Wilson and then arrested them both. They were charged with assaulting a police officer and spent three nights in jail and the rest of their holiday sleeping in a park because they spent all their money on bail.

A court threw out the assault charges and Wilson and Guerrero sued the city for harassment and discrimination, eventually settling out of court for $110,000.

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Adelaide woman gives birth on side of road

People were walking by and everyone could hear my Jurassic-style screams from the car.
Adelaide woman gives birth on side of road

A pregnant South Australian mum was forced to give birth on the side of the road.

Bianca Grant was being driven to Adelaide’s Women’s and Children’s Hospital by her husband, Stephen Curran when they hit heavy traffic.

“Bianca was telling me to go round the cars, the ambulance on the phone told me to stay put,” Mr Curran told The Adelaide Advertiser.

“In the end, I just had to deal with it”.

He was forced to pull over to help his wife deliver the baby.

Luckily, the ambulance arrived about half an hour later.

“People were walking by and everyone could hear my Jurassic-style screams from the car,” Ms Grant said.

Mr Curran tried to put sheets over the car’s windows to give her as much privacy as he could because, “The last thing I wanted was to end up on YouTube from someone taking a video,” Ms Grant said.

Moments later, little Danica was born without any complications.

They were then taken to hospital where they were declared healthy and were released later that day.

“It was funny in a way. We can look back and laugh at the situation now because it had a happy ending,” he said.

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Husband and wife on life support say goodbye

A son captures the moment his dying father farewells his mother while she is on life support.
Husband and wife on life support say goodbye

A husband who was admitted to hospital one day before his wife got to hold his wife’s hand in hospital as he passed away. Their son captured the moment in a photograph tells PEOPLE.

Christopher Mininni’s, 21, father, Jim, was admitted to the intensive care unit on April 28 and he thought things couldn’t get much worse, but then they did.

The following day his mother, Cindy suffered a massive heart attack and was rushed to another hospital where she was placed on life support.

Chris spent an anxious few days dashing between hospitals waiting for news of both parents.

“It was frightening,” he tells PEOPLE. “I didn’t know what to do. It was the worst thing ever.”

Three days later Cindy was transferred to the same hospital as Jim, in Ontario, Canada, and Christopher was able to take a photograph his parents together for one last time.’

Jim had battled cancer three times in eight years and had a “do not resuscitate” order. His breathing tube had been removed during a nightmare and the doctors respected his wishes.

“He said, ‘If you can’t save me, don’t prolong my life,’ ” Chris recalls. “Because of his own wishes we couldn’t put it back in.”

The doctors told Chris “there was nothing we can do for your dad” and that “he’ll go for as long as he can go.”

They told Jim that his wife was in the room next door and the man began to panic.

“We told him that mom was now here,” he says. “He started freaking out. But when we told him he wasn’t going to make it he got out a pen and paper and tried to write because he wasn’t able to speak.”

Unable to speak, Jim wrote the word MOM, and the hospital wheeled him into his wife’s room to hold her hand as he took his final breaths and said farewell to his love.

Cindy woke up after 11 days, and grieved for the her husband of 24 years, however Chris says she finds comfort in knowing that they got to be together for one last time before Jim died.

“The one thing that encapsulates my dad in this lifetime is that he loved my mother with all of his being,” he says. “That’s why I love that photo so much – I feel like it shows it.”

Cindy will make a full recovery.

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