A mother of six has opened up in a candid interview about sometimes ‘regretting’ having her twin sons.

Dublin woman Jeanne Measom spoke to The Sun about struggling to cope with the birth of her twin sons, Rowan and Jude, at 42.

“I love them—of course I do. But there were days when they were younger that I honestly regretted having them,” said Jeanne, “That might make me sound like a bad mum.”

“One night when they were 10 days old, I stood watching them both finally sleeping at the same time,” she told The Sun, “Instead of the warm fuzzy feeling of love and pride I’d felt with my other children regret burnt inside me. I asked myself what had I done.”

“Had I made the wrong choice in not terminating the pregnancy? I felt guilty for even thinking it.”

“I realised there was just no time for that same emotional attachment,” she said.

Continuing, the Jeanne revealed how she became very overwhelmed and reaching a breaking point as the twins grew older.

“Around their first birthday, I sat in the car with them, listening to both of them wailing and thinking I can’t do this any more. Staring at them in the rear-view mirror dark thoughts rushed though my mind: I could give them up for adoption, or I could kill us all…” she said, “They were just fleeting thoughts – thankfully. But I felt like I was drowning. I desperately needed help.”

Jeanne, now 51, revealed she is doing a lot better and denies that her confession makes her a ‘bad mother’.

“I’m an honest mother and the truth that no parent of multiples likes to admit is this: having twins is unrelentingly hard work.”

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Hundreds gathered today to pay tribute to the late Stuart Kelly, brother of one-punch victim Thomas Kelly, after his unexpected death last week.

His parents, Ralph and Kathy, and sister Madeleine, remembered him fondly at a funeral service held at Sydney’s Kings School.

Mourners present at the event included Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull, wife Lucy Turnbull and Premier Mike Baird, as well as hundreds of Stuart’s friends.

“Keep our beautiful boys in your hearts… go home and hug your children,” Kathy Kelly said in the same place she had farewelled her other teenage son just four years ago.

“Even though you were my little brother, I began to look at you in awe,” sister Madeleine said. “You were taller than me, bigger than me, funnier than me and sometimes even more mature than me and always took life head on.”

Ralph Kelly said Stuart’s determination “to make a difference in this world” constantly amazed him.

19-year-old Stuart took his own life in Mona Vale, Sydney last week. The catalyst for his heartbreaking act was reportedly the bullying he received for his family’s efforts to campaign for tougher laws against drunken violence in NSW.

Stuart was just 14 when his brother and “best friend” Thomas Kelly died after a random coward punch attack in Kings Cross in 2012. It was perpetrated by a drunk Kieran Loveridge.

Since the senseless loss of 19-year-old Thomas the Kelly family began the Kelly Foundation and have been campaigning for stricter laws for alcohol related violence in NSW.

On Tuesday Dr Tim Hawkes, headmaster at The King’s School where Stuart once attended, made the announcement that Stuart’s body had been found dead on the Northern Beaches. Since then reports have surfaced speculating Stuart had been tormented by online trolls furious about Sydney’s lockout laws.

“This is the second great tragedy to affect the Kelly family,” Dr Hawkes said.

“The exact circumstances surrounding his death are not known, however, it is enough to know that we have lost a member of our community and therefore our thoughts and prayers go out to Kathy and Ralph Kelly and their daughter Madeleine.”

Ralph Kelly took to Facebook to express his heartache.

“The most painful goodbyes are the ones that are never said and never explained”, Ralph wrote.

There is no doubt Ralph and his wife Kelly were proud of their youngest son. Stuart was “too young” to speak right after his brother’s death but last year the young man delivered a rousing address to a media pack after the sentencing hearing for their son’s killer.

“I carry a deep scar that you cannot see. It’s always there, never leaves. It’s just below the surface of your skin, and surfaces when you least expect it,” Stuart told the crowd.

“Tom never deserved to die that night, it was not meant to be his time. In fact, I believe now that it could and should have been avoided. Our family lost a son and a brother. I ask all of you to look at me, I am but one person who has been affected by violence.

“It is a sentence that I have to carry for the rest of my life. My mother, father and sister now carry this sentence. Our relatives and friends, Tom’s friends, carry this sentence.

“We are not alone, there are many many thousands of other who are directly affected by senseless violence every year. Premier (Mike Baird) will you make this promise tonight?

“Australia is an alcoholic. We need to rethink the way we drink.”

Words so powerful they will surely shape anyone’s memory of the young man.

Our thoughts are with the Kelly family during this incredibly difficult time.

Readers who need any assistance can call Lifeline on 131114 or beyondblue on 1300224636.

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We’re all familiar with the term “cheat day”. You’ve been super healthy all week and it’s time to relax your strict regime and treat yourself to all the “bad” food you have been resisting.

It’s a pretty normal pattern. But that doesn’t mean that it’s a healthy one. And it’s certainly not something that should be reinforced.

So it is disappointing to see that a British retailer, New Look, deemed it appropriate to put the slogan “cheat day” on to a pyjama top, along with a cartoon picture of a slice of pizza.

New Look have insisted that the pyjamas are just a “tongue-in-cheek novelty item” (they are for women, not children) but the damaging message that they reinforce is nothing to joke about.

Zoe Nicholson is a dietitian and owner of figureate consulting. She is also the co-founder of the moderation movement, who promote the principals of health at every size. She told the Weekly Online that she isn’t at all impressed with the pyjamas or the concept of “cheat day”.

“It is reinforcing the idea that there are ‘good’ and ‘bad’ foods. Implying that pizza is part of a ‘cheat day’ implies that pizza is something that’s bad and you shouldn’t be having,” she explains.

Zoe notes that the concept is problematic because restricting food is a key risk factor for over eating or bingeing.

“People swing from being ‘good’ and being ‘bad’ and then often end up overeating,” she says.

The concept of a cheat day encourages people to overeat, which can leave them feeling physically uncomfortable. But on top of that, Zoe says that it can be emotionally damaging too.

“It leads to a cycle of guilt,” she says.

Worse still, if we are ever to break away from the culture of “diets” we need to ensure that our children don’t inherit our warped ideas about food.

Zoe agrees, she says that kids start picking up on what their parents think about certain foods from a really early age. And the concept of “cheat day” is not something we want to pass on.

“It normalises diet culture – the idea that if we are good we can cheat,” she says.

“It’s something we need to move away from.”

And, if we are to move away from dieting culture then the last thing we need is “cheat day” pyjamas.

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